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Staying in love and Loving the same person years after years ,no matter what are 2 different things. Love is not about a feeling, emotion, it's about , sacrifices, sharing your joys and sorrows and growing together! Feelings fade over time, it's not love that betrays, it's the person who betrays.

Ig, many of you have been through such tough times and situations, but believe me, you are special and you deserve all the love and happiness! Don't settle for less! You surely deserve someone who would care for you! Let them go, true love is not about holding back, set them free, let them do whatever they wish, work on yourself! Be the man/ woman they can't never ever afford again in the future. They will definitely regret loosing you once they get to know your value and believe me, it will happen! Just work on yourself!!

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I used to love a girl and we were together for 4.2 years and guess what? She's no more with me today ! She was the one who proposed me back in time when I was in my 10th standard and she was in her 8th standard. We went to the same school and that's from where our love story started. Everything was going good but things started taking a turn from the year 2022 , she started hiding things from me. She got more closed to her male friends, made one of them her best friend as well. I knew, her love for me was declining but being a loyal lover, I stayed true to her, I used to help her in every possible way I could. My best friend Swapnonil was against her because of her attitudes and behaviors, still I stayed with her. Slowly she lost all her friends, I still stayed with her. In the year 2023, she started ignoring me intentionally. Everytime the reason given by her was her illness because of which she used to frequently miss her schools and tutions, she used to stay in hospitals. I believed her, I stood by her side . Gradually her frequency of texting me started declining and a time came hardly we used to talk in a month, like after 14–15 days she would text saying she was in hospital and the same continued. I helped her with medical certificates as my father is a doctor so I arranged all the medicals for her every time despite of her not talking with me properly for the last 6–7 months free of cost. Things started getting worse and in the last 4–5 months, we have hardly talked for 10–12 days!! Can you believe? This was the same girl who used to talk to me for hours!!! My mental health started deteriorating and my focus from studies slowly started declining. Despite topping boards in 2022 from school, I couldn't pursue my bsc in economics because of all such things! Hence I dropped my bsc economics and changed to bba hons in 2023! I wasted my fucking one year on her man!!! Giving pujas in temple for her well being, consulting astrologers for her wellbeing, I gave all of my time, money, efforts, love to her!!! I introduced her to my parents , to my mother, she talked with my mother as well! She promised me that in dec 2023 , we will go on a food date as we haven't gone on a date since 2020!! She even promised my mother to meet her :) I was the happiest, I started making preps for the date. Then a day came in Nov2023, I went to meet her after her school and she said her aunt came to know about us and has confiscated her phn permanently, so she can't text me from now!! I got completely shattered knowing this, I even said her I can buy you a new phone, to talk to me!!! I will do that!! But she refused!!! Things continued like this, I used to meet her everyday after her school but now she used to get irritated by seeing me!! This was not the girl I loved! One fine day, she said ‘Don't you have any other thing to do? Why you always come to meet me ? Don't you have your college? ‘ These words went like a bullet, piercing deep into my heart . She physically abused me when I tried to talk to her, I said her multiple times if you don't want please breakup!!! I can't stay like this!! But she didn't!! She kept on torturing me!!

This was the same girl who even cheated on me in 2022 with her male bestf, which I came to know in sep 2023 from one of her classmates. I got heartbroken at that time. But she manipulated me, uploaded a sorry status and promised me to be the same old girl like before! But at what cost? By the end of december, I came to know she was cheating on me with another boy named Ansh Dubey! She never loved me since 2022 !! She blocked me on 26dec , 2023 by pretending herself to be her aunt! Things fall apart, my 4.2 years of efforts, promises, dreams, words all went in vain! I locked myself, cried like hell!! Like why God? What was my fault? Was being too loyal and kind was my fault? How can someone be so mean? So stone hearted? Idk! So I learnt, doesn't matter what you do for someone, at the end , they will still choose to leave you, once they get someone they think is better than you!

Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support. I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized. he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that. he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened. he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence. i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction. after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly. things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it. we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe … our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far? this has upset me so much its hard to even function.

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This was the status she gave on sep, 2023 when I came to know she cheated on me with her best friend in 2022.

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